(Originally published in REWILD)
When I was 15, I spent a summer in the most beautiful location: Tunnel Mountain, up near Banff surrounded by mountains; doing what I loved: dancing, all of the ballet; and eating the most amazing food (not to mention desserts) by world-class chefs. I was happy. I was beyond happy. One day, a group of girls suggested we all go down to the gym to weigh ourselves. Ok, I thought, this sounds fun. I never gave much thought to my weight before then.
There were about five of us...
Agency Definition: the capacity, condition, or state of acting or of exerting power; something used to achieve an end
― Merriam-Webster Dictionary
Synonyms : agent, activator, catalyst, energizer, influence, inspiration, instrument, launcher, medium, mover, responsibility
Photo credit to George Dimitrov
As a new year arrives, so does a new tax season. Now, this isn't the most fun or glamorous part about being self-employed (unless you in fact love organizing like me...) but it is highly necesarry. Now, I'm not an accountant. This is simply a guide that I use and find helpful. For sure go to tax information sessions, you can usually find them for free for artists and yoga teachers: chat with your community, to gain accurate and up to date information on what the laws are in your region.
Before my Sexual Revolution began, I was on a mission to make my body and my surroundings as clean and natural as possible. That revolved mainly around food, buying all natural and organic products, humane and local as much as possible. That spread into beauty products, cleaning supplies, clothing, basically anything that I put on my body or interacted with in some way. Now I'm still not perfect but my world is getting cleaner and cleaner and my body is reaping the rewards.
What is your first reaction when you hear the word "No" ?
Is it a cringing? A pang? A sadness or sense of rejection? Loss of confidence?
Or is it a sense of excitement and empowerment? Possibility? An opportunity for something else?
I've always had a hard time with the word no, hearing it and speaking it. I grew up as a people pleaser, an enabler of sorts. Yes sir, yes ma'am, yes mom and dad, yes world even if it hurts me. I did not have any sense of boundaries or even the feeling that it was ok to have boundaries.
Hearing no was hard too. I was very lucky as a child and was afforded all of the opportunities I wanted. I really didn't hear no that often, so when I did, it came as a shock.
Image by Charles Gollob
For those of you who don't follow me on social media, I've started something brave and powerful... a year of celibacy.
Now you might think "Are you crazy? A young woman in her prime not having sex?! Don't do it!" I know... but you aren't the first to say that.
I want to say this was a hard decision, but it wasn't. This is something that I have thought about doing for years.
Photo by Marie Ilchuk
This August I participated in two minimalist experiments.
One was to get rid of physical objects as a game, the mins game; The other project was practicing a Buy-Nothing month.
The premise of the mins game is that you get rid of the same amount of objects as is the number that day. For example, on August 1st you would get rid of one object, on August 2nd two objects and so on, throughout the course of the month. My partner originally invited me to do this with him.
I was really excited about the idea, I host clothing swaps all of the time but this was more, this would challenge me. It went really well for the first few days. We both set our items aside and asked each other about it daily. I got a little more excited and started purging things ahead of time, keeping track of my number. Matt petered out after the first week. I made it well into the 20’s (I’m past day 24 and still slowly culling). We were on the road a lot last month so it made it hard to keep up at the end.
Life isn’t always all rainbows and butterflies.
Sometimes, things don’t go our way- or as we had planned. I got a lesson in this today. My partner and I were intent and excited to go to Burning Man, we just didn’t have tickets yet. We registered and were eagerly awaiting the ticket sale. We both logged in and waited anxiously in the queue. Unfortunately, in 6 minutes they were all gone. No more tickets. And the amount of people looking to buy tickets was 1000-1. Well there goes my end of summer plans…